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Hyper-independence makes you miserable: ask for better support

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I grew up in the eighties and nineties when “girls can do anything” was our everyday motto. This strong drive for independent women had shaped so many facets of my life that I failed to notice when I crossed the line from an independent woman into hyper-independence.

I struggle to ask for help.

Worse yet, I fail to accept support and connection from others and then will be the first to complain, “why do I have to do everything myself?”.

Hyper-independence is not a virtue. It may look like one of my strengths, but it is my Achilles heel.  Continue reading Hyper-independence makes you miserable: ask for better support

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Playing small? Not any more!

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I'm done with playing small, just so that others can feel comfortable, playing small.  I’ve done “poor me”… but I am all done with “poor me”.  I’ve stopped dreaming and striving for great when someone has said: “now you’re scaring me“. But no more. No more playing small.

I stopped studying when others told me that I didn’t need any more degrees to hang on the wall. Then I realised that it wasn’t the certificates on the wall that truly fulfilled me.

I stopped building my business when others told me it was getting too big.

I stopped personal development when “they” told me I should just recognise my limitations.

No more.

I’m done with playing small, just so that others can feel comfortable.  

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