Posted on Leave a comment

Intuitive decision-making: what you need to know

I’m sure you would like to use more intuitive decision-making, learning to rely on your subconscious for wiser decisions. It’s more than just a gut instinct or quick reflexes. There’s an element of mastery when subconsciously noticing all the patterns and data without rationally analysing every detail.

Let me share with you an example I read about a few years ago:

In the Monaco Grand Prix, back in the 1950s, the race winner (Juan Manuel Fangio) braked as he came out of the tunnel on his second lap, which allowed him to avoid a mass pile-up. Other drivers accelerated rather than braked.
Why did he choose to brake instead?
Unbeknownst to him, his peripheral vision noticed that all the spectators were looking away from him rather than towards him. And while he didn’t make a conscious decision to brake, his body automatically knew that something was off.
Years of experience kicked in as the sea of faces was turned away and looking towards the accident rather than at the drivers exiting the tunnel.

This is intuitive decision-making: the ability to notice a subtle change in patterns (like the crowd looking another way) that guides you to a wise decision. Continue reading Intuitive decision-making: what you need to know

Posted on Leave a comment

Author your life: make choices for authentic relationships

author your life, authentic relationships, authentic people, authentic person, authentic self

With so much talk about living authentically, we seem to have forgotten the origin of the word “authentic”. Etymologically, it derives from “one acting on one’s authority” – from the reflexive “auto” – self, one’s own, by oneself, of oneself. If authentic, you author your life, acting on your authority. 

On the other hand, most of us get stuck trying to find our way back to “our authentic self” – as if there were some original, static version of self that we could find and refer to.

If only I were true to that version of me, I would be authentic!

Continue reading Author your life: make choices for authentic relationships

Posted on Leave a comment

Hyper-independence makes you miserable: ask for better support

hyper-independence, independent, interdependence, support network,

I grew up in the eighties and nineties when “girls can do anything” was our everyday motto. This strong drive for independent women had shaped so many facets of my life that I failed to notice when I crossed the line from an independent woman into hyper-independence.

I struggle to ask for help.

Worse yet, I fail to accept support and connection from others and then will be the first to complain, “why do I have to do everything myself?”.

Hyper-independence is not a virtue. It may look like one of my strengths, but it is my Achilles heel.  Continue reading Hyper-independence makes you miserable: ask for better support

Posted on 4 Comments

Emotional intelligence: 9 ways to build your self-awareness

alignment, authenticity, awareness, brain, choices, coach, compassion, connection, creativity, decision-making process, emotional intelligence, emotions, expectations, fear, feelings, gut, head, heart, know thyself, loving-kindness, mBraining, self-awareness, values, wisdom

Great relationships, connections and networking are built on the foundation of emotional intelligence. It’s not enough to pretend to control your feelings, but rather to be fully in touch with your emotions and use them resourcefully.

Although you might have heard of emotional intelligence as if it were a single skill, several different skills and practices come together that allow you to stay in touch with your emotions and those around you. 

Typically, there are four key areas to emotional intelligence: self-management, self-awareness, social awareness, and relationship management. The nine skills in self-awareness that I will share with you overlap with all four of these areas. 

It takes an extraordinary self-awareness to use your emotions effectively to create a better life and stronger relationships. Continue reading Emotional intelligence: 9 ways to build your self-awareness

Posted on 1 Comment

A new perspective for wisdom: change your view of the world

a new perspective, alignment, applying knowledge, coach, compassion, connection, core identity, courage, courageous, courageous action, creative action, creativity, emotion, emotions, feelings, follow your heart, generative wisdom, gut, imagination, inner wisdom, know thyself, knowing is not enough, knowledge requires action, personal identity, perspective, perspectives, power of authenticity, risk, safety and security, self-awareness, self-compassion, think outside the box, thriving is an inside job, use your head, using information and knowledge, values, what is important, wisdom in action

Have the past two years given you a new perspective and way of looking at the world? Perhaps slowing down the world and removing many of life’s pleasures and distractions allowed you to look at your meaning and purpose.

  • How do you view the world and your life?
  • What wisdom have you acquired from looking at the world differently?

Continue reading A new perspective for wisdom: change your view of the world