Many of us have a life that others envy – picture-perfect to the outside eye. And yet, it may not be filled with joy, especially when we lose our way. We reach a place where we can no longer see the forest for the trees – caught up in the day-to-day, like a hamster on a wheel. People only see the parts of the “photos” that we crop and filter to them. We project an image of ourselves (even our families) that are far from reality.
We hide any signs of struggle – doing our very best to live up to everyone’s expectations! What does it take to get out from under – from surviving to thriving?
Is surviving really living?
Continue reading Take that picture perfect life from surviving to thriving
I recently wrote a blog post on my personal blog about the road to burnout. The signs, signals, and symptoms that burnout was around the corner were obvious:
- energy depletion
- mentally distant
- problems “getting the job done”
- sense of failure & self-doubt
- insomnia & chronic fatigue
- constantly falling ill
- emotional exhaustion
- anger issues, cynicism
- depression & anxiety
- forgetfulness & inability to concentrate
But I had ignored them, blaming them on my auto-immune disease (Celiac). I continued pushing myself. I blamed the chronic low-grade stress in my life on my illness. And I mistakenly thought that my problem was my mindset, time management, and the need to establish clearer priorities. Continue reading Burnout: discovering meaning, passion & purpose
“I’ve never seen you live up to your full potential.
You always reach the summit, but you never take off in flight.”
That’s the challenge I received from my best friend one day as we were talking about my career and life decisions. Proving… once again… that she is — indeed — my best friend. Calling me out for failing to live up to my full potential. Reach a limiting belief or ceiling and then pull back.
Always fearful of going from good to great.
Never courageous enough to fully step outside of my comfort zone and learn to fly.
Because of this challenge, the past 18 months have been rife with challenges. I have stepped up and out of my comfort zone and into an arena of learning to speak my truth. Recognised when I am pandering to others’ expectations of me, rather than my own.
Continue reading Reaching full potential: thriving through growth
I recently came face to face with some shadows of my past. While I took to blogging as part of processing my feelings, I also got in touch with two other mBraining coaches (Sarah & Wendy) that I regularly do sessions with and I asked for help to process my loss of direction. I needed assistance to get in touch with my naturally evolving wisdom.
I know the importance of dealing with these emotions and issues when they arise: one of the biggest mistakes I typically make is that I want to fix it for everyone else as well. Nonetheless, the only person that I can change and work on is me. I am responsible for how I respond and what I do.
Next right step
So, I found myself in a place where I needed clarity on “what is my next right step forward?”
Continue reading Evolving wisdom: how wisdom emerges
And suddenly, in a flash, 2018 is ending & 2019 is upon us. I spent the first 15 days of December on Facebook talking about how to take your heart’s desires & convert them into heart-led goals. And the reason that I took 15 days to talk about this – not one hour – is that I think the topic is simply profound. Yes, it’s profoundly simple. But it’s simply profound. I don’t believe we are served by being ruled by our emotions.
However, if you want to live without regrets, then you need to live the best version of yourself.
You can’t live a lie. You have to follow your heart.
– Paul Weller
Continue reading Heart-led goal setting: self compassion