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Take that picture perfect life from surviving to thriving

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Many of us have a life that others envy – picture-perfect to the outside eye. And yet, it may not be filled with joy, especially when we lose our way. We reach a place where we can no longer see the forest for the trees – caught up in the day-to-day, like a hamster on a wheel. People only see the parts of the “photos” that we crop and filter to them. We project an image of ourselves (even our families) that are far from reality.

We hide any signs of struggle – doing our very best to live up to everyone’s expectations! What does it take to get out from under – from surviving to thriving?

Is surviving really living?

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Burnout: discovering meaning, passion & purpose

I recently wrote a blog post on my personal blog about the road to burnout.  The signs, signals, and symptoms that burnout was around the corner were obvious:“When you’re burnt out, you often no longer see yourself as an agent of change in your own life. It feels like all your efforts and your choices no longer impact your outcomes.” Emilie Aries, surviving to thriving

  • exhausted
  • energy depletion
  • mentally distant
  • problems “getting the job done”
  • sense of failure & self-doubt
  • insomnia & chronic fatigue
  • constantly falling ill
  • emotional exhaustion
  • anger issues, cynicism
  • depression & anxiety
  • forgetfulness & inability to concentrate
  • withdrawal

But I had ignored them, blaming them on my auto-immune disease (Celiac). I continued pushing myself. I blamed the chronic low-grade stress in my life on my illness. And I mistakenly thought that my problem was my mindset, time management, and the need to establish clearer priorities. Continue reading Burnout: discovering meaning, passion & purpose

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Uncomfortably comfortable?

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Imagine yourself with this beautiful view of the ocean, and like the girl in the picture, you’ve found yourself a comfortable place to sit on the rocks to admire the view.  And so, for a moment, you sit. In silence. Enjoying the moment.

But at what moment does this comfortable spot on the rocks begin to get uncomfortable?

Are you ready to thrive beyond your comfort zone? Has your comfort zone gotten sufficiently uncomfortable? Have you been sitting there fore long enough that you need to move? Do you start to notice your legs first, or perhaps your back where you are leaning against the rocks? Maybe it’s simply the back of your heel, where your foot rubs a sharp piece of rock or roots.

When do you decide that this perfect view and the comfortable spot is now uncomfortable? It’s time to stand up and move on?

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The Journey Begins

I put off, for a number of years, beginning this journey.

Fear of the unknown.

Fear of having to get to know myself.

Because, before I was ready to help others, first I had to heal and take care of myself.

Eventually, I hit a rock bottom – and then I discovered that there is still a rock bottom within that rock bottom. After that, you really can’t go any lower!

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Playing small? Not any more!

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I'm done with playing small, just so that others can feel comfortable, playing small.  I’ve done “poor me”… but I am all done with “poor me”.  I’ve stopped dreaming and striving for great when someone has said: “now you’re scaring me“. But no more. No more playing small.

I stopped studying when others told me that I didn’t need any more degrees to hang on the wall. Then I realised that it wasn’t the certificates on the wall that truly fulfilled me.

I stopped building my business when others told me it was getting too big.

I stopped personal development when “they” told me I should just recognise my limitations.

No more.

I’m done with playing small, just so that others can feel comfortable.  

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