Inner conflict shows up in so many ways, shapes and forms. Some say that the more mental beliefs, ideals, expectations, and desires we have, the more likely we are to suffer from internal conflict.
Sometimes, it is a mental conflict, such as a cognitive dissonance — inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes.
Other times, it feels worse: caught between a rock and a hard place. On the one hand, this is what I “should” do, but this is what I want to do. Or perhaps, you even want both things, they just seem to be diametrically opposed to each other. Confused about the options and choices you are faced with, you wonder how to resolve the conundrum. Continue reading Inner Conflict: resolving with mBraining
I recently came face to face with some shadows of my past. While I took to blogging as part of processing my feelings, I also got in touch with two other mBraining coaches (Sarah & Wendy) that I regularly do sessions with and I asked for help to process my loss of direction. I needed assistance to get in touch with my naturally evolving wisdom.
I know the importance of dealing with these emotions and issues when they arise: one of the biggest mistakes I typically make is that I want to fix it for everyone else as well. Nonetheless, the only person that I can change and work on is me. I am responsible for how I respond and what I do.
Next right step
So, I found myself in a place where I needed clarity on “what is my next right step forward?”
Continue reading Evolving wisdom: how wisdom emerges
And suddenly, in a flash, 2018 is ending & 2019 is upon us. I spent the first 15 days of December on Facebook talking about how to take your heart’s desires & convert them into heart-led goals. And the reason that I took 15 days to talk about this – not one hour – is that I think the topic is simply profound. Yes, it’s profoundly simple. But it’s simply profound. I don’t believe we are served by being ruled by our emotions.
However, if you want to live without regrets, then you need to live the best version of yourself.
You can’t live a lie. You have to follow your heart.
– Paul Weller
Continue reading Heart-led goal setting: self compassion
I started off last week thinking about “what’s missing in my life?” – in the sense of what’s missing when I feel unmotivated? When I am “stuck” and failing to move forward – what have I overlooked?
Or what might be missing if I feel unable to make a “good” choice? When I am not taking care of my well-being – why do I forget to put on my oxygen mask first? Or when I am struggling with gratitude, what do I need to do?
How can I do a better job at following through?
Continue reading What’s missing? mBraining Integration
Yesterday I supervised a coaching session where the trainee coach was working with a “client” to identify their values. And I realised that for myself, it was really important to re-examine this area of my life, which I took time doing this afternoon! I recognised that as life changes, so had my priorities!!
I wanted to share two things with you:
- The purpose of core values elicitation. Why do coaches spend time eliciting their clients’ values? What’s the purpose and “value” in doing this?
- My core values and how I define them: what do they mean to me?
The purpose of this exercise:
Continue reading Values & priorities: why identify them?