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25 authentic questions to evaluate yourself this year

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The new year is approaching, and it’s time to look back and take stock of how far you’ve come, planning your goals for the future. Before you start your vision board or planning, here are 25 authentic questions to ask yourself:

Five authentic questions on vision and purpose:

  1. Have I clearly defined for myself my vision and purpose?
  2. Did I set clear goals for myself at the beginning of this year and make a plan for this year to fulfil these goals?
  3. Was I persistent in following my dreams through to completion?
  4. When my plans met with failure, did I regroup and adopt a new method to fulfil my vision and purpose?
  5. Did I use my vision and purpose to help me make effective decisions, aligning my decision-making with my priorities?

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Your authentic self: it takes courage to be vulnerable

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In addition to needing compassion and creativity, you will need a healthy dose of courage if you want to live as your authentic self!

You know the science maxim: every action has an equal and opposite reaction? Or how about Newton’s first law of motion? An object at rest stays at rest, and an object in motion stays in motion (same speed / same direction) unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.

Are you willing to live with greater vulnerability to show your authentic self in your words, decisions, and relationships? Continue reading Your authentic self: it takes courage to be vulnerable

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Be authentic: consciously author your life with creativity

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Most of us think of creativity as solely referring to artists: painters, musicians, writers, or even architects. They are so creative. I beg to differ. I believe that to be authentic requires that we each live from a place of creativity.

Grant Soosalu and Marvin Oka put it best in their book mBraining: creativity is the quality of consciousness from which you author your life. Continue reading Be authentic: consciously author your life with creativity

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An authentic life requires compassion

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Living authentically seems to be a buzzword in so many circles – especially in the coaching world I live in! How do you live an authentic life?

To be authentic is to live with compassion and  integrity.

Integrity means more than honesty; it’s about wholeness and internal consistency.
You live in integrity when your actions and choices reflect your values, priorities and desires.
You live authentically when you compassionately listen to all aspects of yourself without ignoring any part of you.

Do your relationships reflect what is truly important to you or only what you think others will find acceptable and pleasing? Continue reading An authentic life requires compassion

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Brutally honest: how about we try being sincere with compassion?

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Professional and personal communication is one of my biggest challenges. As an INTJ, I can be brutally honest, speaking my mind without sensing the effect my words and tone have on others.  I just blurt out what I want to communicate without considering whether it’s the right time or place to do so.

I’ve found I have better skills when I write it all out in an email or written correspondence. But this misses many nuances and can be misunderstood.

At the other end of the spectrum, I clam up when the emotional environment hits like a battering ram. Continue reading Brutally honest: how about we try being sincere with compassion?