In addition to needing compassion and creativity, you will need a healthy dose of courage if you want to live as your authentic self!
You know the science maxim: every action has an equal and opposite reaction? Or how about Newton’s first law of motion? An object at rest stays at rest, and an object in motion stays in motion (same speed / same direction) unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.
Most of us think of creativity as solely referring to artists: painters, musicians, writers, or even architects. They are so creative. I beg to differ. I believe that to be authentic requires that we each live from a place of creativity.
Living authentically seems to be a buzzword in so many circles – especially in the coaching world I live in! How do you live an authentic life?
To be authentic is to livewith compassion and integrity.
Integrity means more than honesty; it’s about wholeness and internal consistency.
You live in integrity when your actions and choices reflect your values, priorities and desires.
You live authentically when you compassionately listen to all aspects of yourself without ignoring any part of you.
Self-confidence is built on self-awareness. I have discovered – many times over – that clients who develop their interceptive skills live powerfully authentic lives. It is this internal self-awareness that allows you to consider whether you:
follow your heart;
listen to your gut; or
sit with your thoughts.
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But this is not a multiple-choice question where there is only one “right answer”. You build trust and confidence in yourself when you align yourself (thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values and passions) with your actions.
Your sense of self is much greater than just your brain and mind, and you are not your thoughts, emotions, or even your actions. If you delve into this, you will notice you are the thinker, feeler and doer!
I always feel like I walk a thin line between being “nice” and being truly kind. Old me is a burnt-out people pleaser. To be authentic in relationships with people that used to know me before I started this journey is an ongoing lesson! See, with new acquaintances, it’s easier: they have no expectations of what I will be like or how I will express myself. But in older relationships, I still have to catch myself.
Be authentic! Stop acting and pretending, stop fawning and being “nice and polite” in socially acceptable ways. Instead, remember to show up as the kinder version of you.