identifying your values

Identifying values: suggestions and selection

One of the primary tasks we want to do when we are choosing how to decide future courses of action is to choose the guidelines by which decisions will be made.  One of the ways that we identify “good decisions” – is that they resonate with the values that we hold important. So, we hope this guide to identifying your values will be useful.

The following is a large list of potential values.  This list is not conclusive – you might have others that you consider should be added.

But in order to facilitate this exercise, I have found that clients often benefit from having a starting point.  This is your starting point.

Step 1 in identifying your values:

Go through the list, and place a checkmark beside any value that you think is important.

Step 2:

Now, take some deep breaths into your heart, and go back through the list (of those that you checked off) and circle any values that you feel are important to you.

Step 3:

Continuing with deep breaths, start breathing into your belly.

Go back through the list (of those that you circled) and identify any values that “This is who I am”.

Step 4:

Now, with the values that are left, draw a mind map on another piece of paper.  If you are not sure what a mind map is, have a look at the image available here:
https://bethgray.coach/2018/11/03/values-priorities-why-identify-them/

Acceptance
Accomplishment
Accountability
Accuracy
Achievement
Adaptability
Alertness
Altruism
Ambition
Amusement
Assertiveness
Attentive
Authenticity
Awareness
Balance
Beauty
Boldness
Bravery
Brilliance
Calm
Candor
Capable
Careful
Certainty
Challenge
Charity
Cleanliness
Clear
Clever
Comfort
Commitment
Common sense
Communication
Community
Compassion
Competence
Concentration
Confidence
Connection
Consciousness
Consistency
Contentment
Contribution
Control
Conviction
Cooperation
Courage
Courtesy
Creation
Creativity
Credibility
Curiosity
Decisive
Decisiveness
Dedication
Dependability
Determination
Development
Devotion
Dignity
Discipline
Discovery
Drive
Effectiveness
Efficiency
Empathy
Empower
Endurance
Energy
Enjoyment
Enthusiasm
Equality
Ethical
Excellence
Experience
Exploration
Expressive
Fairness
Family
Famous
Fearless
Feelings
Ferocious
Fidelity
Focus
Foresight
Fortitude
Freedom
Friendship
Fun
Generosity
Genius
Giving
Goodness
Grace
Gratitude
Greatness
Growth
Happiness
Hard work
Harmony
Health
Honesty
Honor
Hope
Humility
Imagination
Improvement
Independence
Individuality
Innovation
Inquisitive
Insightful
Inspiring
Integrity
Intelligence
Intensity
Intuitive
Irreverent
Joy
Justice
Kindness
Knowledge
Lawful
Leadership
Learning
Liberty
Logic
Love
Loyalty
Mastery
Maturity
Meaning
Moderation
Motivation
Openness
Optimism
Order
Organization
Originality
Passion
Patience
Peace
Performance
Persistence
Playfulness
Poise
Potential
Power
Present
Productivity
Professionalism
Prosperity
Purpose
Quality
Realistic
Reason
Recognition
Recreation
Reflective
Respect
Responsibility
Restraint
Results-oriented
Reverence
Rigor
Risk
Satisfaction
Security
Self-reliance
Selfless
Sensitivity
Serenity
Service
Sharing
Significance
Silence
Simplicity
Sincerity
Skill
Skillfulness
Smart
Solitude
Spirit
Spirituality
Spontaneous
Stability
Status
Stewardship
Strength
Structure
Success
Support
Surprise
Sustainability
Talent
Teamwork
Temperance
Thankful
Thorough
Thoughtful
Timeliness
Tolerance
Toughness
Traditional
Tranquility
Transparency
Trust
Trustworthy
Truth
Understanding
Uniqueness
Unity
Valor
Victory
Vigor
Vision
Vitality
Wealth
Welcoming
Winning
Wisdom
Wonder

Final Step: identifying your values

Now that you have a mind map of your values, whcih are the values that seem to be pivotal to you. Typically, I would expect to see 5-7 values that all the other values converge around.

Is there one value that stands out above the rest?

For me, for 2020 – that word is “BOLD”.  As I wrote in a blog post on my personal blog:

This year I will be BOLD, strong, courageous and determined. No matter what happens, I will remember that I am adaptable and resilient and that I build success and happiness by finding innovation in times of change. I sit in silence each morning for inspired action, being committed to doing what needs to be done. Nevertheless, I will stay in the flow rather than getting uptight, clinging to outcomes. I will practice being aware – internally and externally – trusting that I am intuitive and connected with the Divine.

“Secrets of the heart: revealing my values”

All of the other values are expressions of what I need to be in order to be bold. When I am BOLD, I am:

  • aware
  • flow
  • committed
  • inspired
  • resilient
  • intuitive

Without all these values, it would be impossible to be bold.

What are your values and how will you use these to define and measure success in your life?

I hope you have found this exercise in identifying values helpful.