Imagine for a moment – what would your life look like if you were thriving beyond your comfort zone? Imagine working with focus, where everything comes easily!
There’s a catch… in order to learn & grow – to achieve what you have never achieved before – you need to move beyond your comfort zone! You have to stretch!
However, in order to reach a level of excellence & competency – a place where you do things effortlessly and you are thriving… you need to be within your comfort zone!
Does that sound like a catch 22?
What if… you could learn how to thrive and do things competently and with excellence – constantly expanding your comfort zone, to bring more things within reach? Could you expand your comfort zone, become comfortable and competent within that new space & area… and then stretch your comfort zone again to engulf a larger area?
How different would your life be if you would dare to be seen & heard? Can you imagine living with “this is my voice” – without feeling that you should be smaller – because the true you makes others uncomfortable?
One of the problems with comfort zones is that they become familiar. They say “familiarity breeds contempt” – and so we find ourselves living in a comfort zone of complacency, boredom, indifference, & disengagement! A place where “nothing new is happening”.
A good comfort zone, on the other hand, is a place of safety, contentment, connection and predictability. Because we all need to feel safe and secure. Ideally, it’s a place of gratification. One where you are effective at what you do – an expert!
A great comfort zone allows you to dive deeply into your expertise, developing yourself within this zone, and constantly improving. We might expand the zone slightly because of an overlap with another interest, but they are such small steps that we are comfortable taking them. You are constantly developing yourself and growing – taller & deeper.
“Unless you do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson –
But what happens when nothing new is happening?
It’s when we allow that comfort zone to get us “stuck in a rut” that it becomes problematic! Quite simply put, the issue is that world is constantly changing, and if we fail to grow our comfort zone, abilities and goals beyond the original boundaries – we get “stuck”.
The limits that once served us and were effective – are now holding us in! We are no longer in our comfort zone… but miserably uncomfortable. We now find ourselves in limbo – in a space which no longer works effectively for us. But at this time, we might feel overwhelmed and threatened by the thought of introducing change!
I can’t stay here! But I’m too scared to move out!
If you keep doing what you’ve been doing – you will keep getting the results you have been getting! Are you happy with those results?
We sometimes reach a point where we have to face the consequences of “staying here”. Is staying where I am more frightening than moving into the unknown? Am I genuinely happy here – or do I need to find a new way to connect with my heart’s desires – with my passion, purpose and inspiration?
Stretching into the new
I’m not suggesting you throw out the baby with the bath water.
I’m just asking whether you want to stay stuck where you are. Fear is a construct of your mind – a human response that has been passed to us through our DNA – effectively working to keep us safe and secure.
Better the devil you know… than dread of the unknown
Stretching outside of your comfort zone should not be done simply for the purpose of saying you are beyond your comfort zone. Instead the purpose of stretching is to reach into your full potential!
Are you reaching your goals & dreams?
You will stop making excuses about why you can’t leave your comfort zone when you have something bigger to strive for.
What is your “why”?
Through coaching, we will discover your passions, motivations & what you deeply idenitfy with. You will understand your heart’s desires and how those can work with your plans and goals! We will work through how you can move intentionally towards what you truly care about.
When you have this clarity:
- your hearts desires & your purpose & passions
- your plans & goals & how you visualise your life
- what you deeply identify with and the motivation to step out with intentional actions
You will no longer doubt yourself: Is there a better way to do this?
This does not have to be painful – but simply steps taken in growth. The questions
- Will this add value to my life?
- Do I care about this?
will be clearly answered for you.
The fact that you have never done this before will no longer be an excuse.
Will there be obstacles? Yes.
You will have to overcome them.
Will there potentially be failures? Yes.
But you can learn to fail forward!
Like a toddler that is learning something new – you can accept that your first attempt may not be perfect! What will you choose to learn from it? When you think about it – children are typically vibrant, creative & happy. When they want something – they learn in order to do or get it! They want to get something from the top shelf of the cabinet? They build a completely unsafe pile of pillows (if you’re lucky) – to climb up – and discover that it is not stable enough and will fall!
But they connect with the desire – they think of the possibilities with a limitless imagination – and then with courage and action – they go for it! There really is no failure, just learning.
As adults, on the other hand – we’ve learned fear & rejection. We want acceptance. If only we could learn to fail forward – to learn. Of course, if you fail to learn – that would be failure – repeating the same mistakes over and over again!
Will you need to review your support network? Probably.
Does you existing network support you to expand beyond their comfort zone? Will they be uncomfortable with your growth & transformation? As long as you are open, you will find a network equal to the challenge you are facing!
Striding into a new “normal”
As you get used to this new space – one where you are learning, perfecting & mastering – you will have moved beyond your comfort zone. But as you become productive and effective there – you will essentially have created a new expanded comfort zone. One in which you get used to trying something new, preparing & practicing it, following through consistently, until you are effectively comfortable once more.
The questions will become:
What do I need to improve to get better at what I do?
How can I enjoy the learning process?
As you get to know yourself once more – your feelings, thoughts, core self & identity – you will recover that highest expression of wisdom that lies within you. The one that allows you to move forward expressing constantly:
COMPASSION, CREATIVITY & COURAGE!
This is a 3-month coaching package – working on clarifying your heart’s desires, passions & purpose. From there, we will work on visualising the goals & plans that are required, and identifying the actions to put those into effect, and then provide you with the support & accountability to overcome the obstacles that you encounter as you start on this new adventure!