As I learn about forgiveness, I realise the first requires acknowledging the existence of my pain & feelings. They say Dis-Ease comes from Unforgiveness (Louise Hay). We carry around, within our body (emotions that we haven’t allowed to pass through), the pain.
My definition of pain is simply this: Please. Acknowledge. Information. Now. And until we acknowledge the information – until we name the pain – we cannot forgive!
In my spiritual studies, reading Paul Hasselbeck’s “Point of Power“, I learned “events are simply neutral“. God (the Universe if you prefer) is not trying to “teach me a lesson”. In fact, the events, themselves, do not teach me anything. I, on the other hand, am the one choosing what lesson I learn from any given event or situation. As Paul says:
I am the point of Power; I am the one who chooses the lesson I learn.
You can’t want a “should”… I mean… you should want it… but it’s hard to want a “should“. Well, near nigh impossible!
As a toddler, we are really clear on “this is what I want” – either I “want it” or “I don’t want it”. As a toddler, we never have that confusion over “I should want it, but I don’t really”. Our “no” is clearly enunciated at two years of age!
Unfortunately, as toddlers, we also learn that if we cry, we will probably be fed! When my little one was a baby and she would cry, we would typically: