I’ve recently been reading The Power of Habit, by Charles Duhigg. As you can imagine, it’s all about habits – how they are formed, why we form habits, and how we can change them. I have also been reading a lot about neuroplasticity:
The way the brain reorganizes itself by forming new connections throughout life.
Neuroplasticity is our ability to adapt to change – to learn new ways of thinking, feeling, speaking & acting. It doesn’t matter how old you are – your brain is malleable, flexible and able to shift.
It is possible to “teach an old dog new tricks”.
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As I learn about forgiveness, I realise the first requires acknowledging the existence of my pain & feelings. They say Dis-Ease comes from Unforgiveness (Louise Hay). We carry around, within our body (emotions that we haven’t allowed to pass through), the pain.
My definition of pain is simply this: Please. Acknowledge. Information. Now. And until we acknowledge the information – until we name the pain – we cannot forgive!
In my spiritual studies, reading Paul Hasselbeck’s “Point of Power“, I learned “events are simply neutral“. God (the Universe if you prefer) is not trying to “teach me a lesson”. In fact, the events, themselves, do not teach me anything. I, on the other hand, am the one choosing what lesson I learn from any given event or situation. As Paul says:
I am the point of Power;
I am the one who chooses the lesson I learn.
Continue reading Forgiveness: release & letting go
As a life coach — well, okay… as an #mBIT coach with mBraining — you will hear me talk ad nauseum about your compassion, creativity, and courage.
I am forever asking questions, such as:
- How do you feel?
- What emotions arise for you in this area?
- How do you connect with your dreams & desires?
- When you are quiet and sitting in silence, what do you truly want?
- What do you really think about this?
- Can you imagine or visualize options & alternatives?
- Who are you – really, truly, deeply?
- And how is this reflected in what you do?
Continue reading mBraining – heart, head & gut
You can’t want a “should”… I mean… you should want it… but it’s hard to want a “should“. Well, near nigh impossible!
As a toddler, we are really clear on “this is what I want” – either I “want it” or “I don’t want it”. As a toddler, we never have that confusion over “I should want it, but I don’t really”. Our “no” is clearly enunciated at two years of age!
Unfortunately, as toddlers, we also learn that if we cry, we will probably be fed! When my little one was a baby and she would cry, we would typically:
- check the diaper
- offer food
- try to put to sleep
- check for colic
Continue reading Emotional eating – you can’t want a “should”
I put off, for a number of years, beginning this journey.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of having to get to know myself.
Because, before I was ready to help others, first I had to heal and take care of myself.
Eventually, I hit a rock bottom – and then I discovered that there is still a rock bottom within that rock bottom. After that, you really can’t go any lower!
Continue reading The Journey Begins