As I learn about forgiveness, I realise the first requires acknowledging the existence of my pain & feelings. They say Dis-Ease comes from Unforgiveness (Louise Hay). We carry around, within our body (emotions that we haven’t allowed to pass through), the pain.
My definition of pain is simply this: Please. Acknowledge. Information. Now. And until we acknowledge the information – until we name the pain – we cannot forgive!
In my spiritual studies, reading Paul Hasselbeck’s “Point of Power“, I learned “events are simply neutral“. God (the Universe if you prefer) is not trying to “teach me a lesson”. In fact, the events, themselves, do not teach me anything. I, on the other hand, am the one choosing what lesson I learn from any given event or situation. As Paul says:
I am the point of Power;
I am the one who chooses the lesson I learn.
Continue reading Forgiveness: release & letting go
As a life coach — well, okay… as an #mBIT coach with mBraining — you will hear me talk ad nauseum about your compassion, creativity, and courage.
I am forever asking questions, such as:
- How do you feel?
- What emotions arise for you in this area?
- How do you connect with your dreams & desires?
- When you are quiet and sitting in silence, what do you truly want?
- What do you really think about this?
- Can you imagine or visualize options & alternatives?
- Who are you – really, truly, deeply?
- And how is this reflected in what you do?
Continue reading mBraining – heart, head & gut
You can’t want a “should”… I mean… you should want it… but it’s hard to want a “should“. Well, near nigh impossible!
As a toddler, we are really clear on “this is what I want” – either I “want it” or “I don’t want it”. As a toddler, we never have that confusion over “I should want it, but I don’t really”. Our “no” is clearly enunciated at two years of age!
Unfortunately, as toddlers, we also learn that if we cry, we will probably be fed! When my little one was a baby and she would cry, we would typically:
- check the diaper
- offer food
- try to put to sleep
- check for colic
Continue reading Emotional eating – you can’t want a “should”
I put off, for a number of years, beginning this journey.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of having to get to know myself.
Because, before I was ready to help others, first I had to heal and take care of myself.
Eventually, I hit a rock bottom – and then I discovered that there is still a rock bottom within that rock bottom. After that, you really can’t go any lower!
Continue reading The Journey Begins
I’ve done “poor me”… but I am all done with “poor me”. I’ve stopped dreaming and striving for great when someone has said: “now you’re scaring me“. But no more. No more playing small.
I stopped studying when others told me that I didn’t need any more degrees to hang on the wall. Then I realised that it wasn’t the certificates on the wall that truly fulfilled me.
I stopped building my business when others told me it was getting too big.
I stopped personal development when “they” told me I should just recognise my limitations.
I’m done with playing small, just so that others can feel comfortable.
Continue reading Playing small? Not any more!