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Expect obstacles! Plan for challenges

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There are so many things that stop us from living the life of our dreams, but are you expecting challenges on your journey? When we expect obstacles, foreseeing them – we do a better job of ensuring success and completion!

I’m not talking about the obstacles of waiting for the right time or needing to feel ready. I invite you to consider actual obstacles that you encounter once you allow yourself to dream and plan. Things like not making your goal a priority and failing to schedule enough time to work on it. Or failing to commit and have accountability for the duration of the project.

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Start where you stand: the time is never “just right”

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Are you looking at what is left of 2019 and wondering how to achieve your dreams and goals for the year? Or perhaps you simply shrugged your shoulders, giving up, and thinking you will try again next year. Allow me to interject here and suggest that you start where you stand right now.

Do what you can with all you have, wherever you are. (Theodore Roosevelt)

Good things take time:

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Compassion: six factors to follow your heart

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Confused by all the suggestions that you should lead from the heart, but be careful following your heart? Of course, some recommend that the only way to find happiness is to follow your heart. Others caution that following your heart leads to disaster. What happens if you lead with compassion?

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Accepting change: thriving & growing

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While change may be constant in life – something “out there” – accepting change, when it impacts you personally, is a challenge. Ideally, of course, we want to not only accept it, but continue thriving and growing through it, because of it, and with it!

But thriving and growing in the face of change is not easy – especially as we grow older. We typically reach a moment where life has plateaued, we have become accustomed to “how things are”. We seek the comfort of the known. Inertia builds up, with a tendency to do nothing.

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Safety – crossing the bridge from fear to security

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What is the role of safety and security when you leave your comfort zone into growth?

For me, the reality of many brave decisions of the past twenty years: there has been a strong influence of moving away from pain and fear! I have taken risks, pushed by pain. Because I feared the consequences of staying stuck, I moved! Sometimes towards my passion and transformation. Many times away from the discomfort of my comfort zone.

Looking back, I often wish that I had moved sooner, rather than waiting for the pain to grow and push me. I wish that I had moved towards my passion and dreams, allowing them to draw me – rather than allowing fear to fuel me.

I believe that it was Michael Beckwith that said:

Allow your pain to push you, until your passion/vision pulls you!

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