What is the role of safety and security when you leave your comfort zone into growth?
For me, the reality of many brave decisions of the past twenty years: there has been a strong influence of moving away from pain and fear! I have taken risks, pushed by pain. Because I feared the consequences of staying stuck, I moved! Sometimes towards my passion and transformation. Many times away from the discomfort of my comfort zone.
Looking back, I often wish that I had moved sooner, rather than waiting for the pain to grow and push me. I wish that I had moved towards my passion and dreams, allowing them to draw me – rather than allowing fear to fuel me.
I believe that it was Michael Beckwith that said:
Allow your pain to push you, until your passion/vision pulls you!
Continue reading Safety – crossing the bridge from fear to security
How do you get out from under?
I talked in my last blog post how you might feel overloaded or overwhelmed – tired, forgetful, irritable and apathetic! Our current lifestyles have us busy multi-tasking. Our brains are working overtime! There is physical clutter, mental clutter, and scheduling clutter! In order to clear the clutter, we need to tackle head-on the ways in which we are choosing overload.
If we want to reclaim some control, we need to make some changes in the way that we choose.
From overloaded to clarity: clear the clutter
Continue reading Clear the clutter – overwhelmed and overloaded
Growing up, I remember my mum remonstrating that there simply were not enough hours in a day! As a sometimes overloaded, over-committed single mother, professional and volunteer, I have those very same moments!
I lament, at times, that days blur into each other, as I fail to stop and smell the roses. Days when it feels like there are simply not enough hours to get it all done. And then, when I finally have the time, where did my energy and focus go?
4 signs you are overloaded:
Continue reading Overloaded, overwhelmed and not enough time
The phrase of the decade “truly authentic”. So overused, it’s become cliché. And yet this phrase resonates, representing an innermost desire to “just be ourselves”. Because so many people, who appear to have it all, are miserable inside! Trapped by expectations that others “impose” upon them.
If you are one of the many, you may feel you are simply fulfilling roles and stereotypes that have left you frustrated and unfulfilled. Or perhaps, you feel happiness is lightyears away.
Continue reading Truly authentic- authenticity – what does it mean?
If you are anything like me, you’ve read dozens, possibly hundreds, of self-help books. Whether it’s older books like the 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and Think & Grow Rich, or newer books like You Are A Badass – there are plenty of books on personal development. Devouring them helps us make steady changes in life.
However, you may still find that you haven’t found what you are looking for. Perhaps you are wondering – “why is this not working?” I’m here to tell you – unless you make some fundamental changes, rather than simply surface changes – nothing will change.
If nothing changes, nothing will ever change.
Continue reading Another self-help book or is it time to hire a coach?