Posted on 1 Comment

Safety – crossing the bridge from fear to security

safety, beyond your comfort zone, from fear to security, Maslow's hierarchy of needs, primal need, connection with others, being loved, esteem, personal value, self-confidence, financial security, emotional security, physical security, unhealthy relationships, toxic relationship, emotional intelligence, identifying your feelings, manage feelings, motivated by lack, motivated by fear, caution, trusting yourself, trusting your feelings, speaking up for yourself, short-term risk, long-term safety

What is the role of safety and security when you leave your comfort zone into growth?

For me, the reality of many brave decisions of the past twenty years: there has been a strong influence of moving away from pain and fear! I have taken risks, pushed by pain. Because I feared the consequences of staying stuck, I moved! Sometimes towards my passion and transformation. Many times away from the discomfort of my comfort zone.

Looking back, I often wish that I had moved sooner, rather than waiting for the pain to grow and push me. I wish that I had moved towards my passion and dreams, allowing them to draw me – rather than allowing fear to fuel me.

I believe that it was Michael Beckwith that said:

Allow your pain to push you, until your passion/vision pulls you!

Continue reading Safety – crossing the bridge from fear to security

Posted on 10 Comments

Clear the clutter – overwhelmed and overloaded

clear the clutter, not enough time in life, enough time for the life you want, precious resources, make more money, increase your energy, build new relationships, achieving your goals, there is always enough time, how you use your time, choosing what to do with my time, investing my time, spending time, wasting time, gaining clarity on my goals, procrastination, confusion, too many to-do items, strict boundaries, protecting my time, protect my schedule, assign realistic deadlines, time on social media, organise my time, organize my tasks

How do you get out from under?

I talked in my last blog post how you might feel overloaded or overwhelmed – tired, forgetful, irritable and apathetic! Our current lifestyles have us busy multi-tasking. Our brains are working overtime! There is physical clutter, mental clutter, and scheduling clutter! In order to clear the clutter, we need to tackle head-on the ways in which we are choosing overload.

If we want to reclaim some control, we need to make some changes in the way that we choose.

From overloaded to clarity: clear the clutter

Continue reading Clear the clutter – overwhelmed and overloaded

Posted on 2 Comments

Overloaded, overwhelmed and not enough time

overloaded, overwhelomed, not enough time, too much to do not enough time, not enough time in life, there's not enough time, overloaded, deluged with too much work, days blur into each other, enough time for the life you want, precious resources, make more money, increase your energy, build new relationships, achieving your goals, there is always enough time, how you use your time, choosing what to do with my time, investing my time, spending time, wasting time, gaining clarity on my goals, procrastination, confusion, too many to-do items, unrealistic expectations, too many interruptions, strict boundaries, protecting my time, protect my schedule, manage my interruptions, manage my availability, struggle to say no, accept work that is not ideal, assign realistic deadlines, time on social media, organise my time, organize my tasks

Growing up, I remember my mum remonstrating that there simply were not enough hours in a day!  As a sometimes overloaded, over-committed single mother, professional and volunteer, I have those very same moments!

I lament, at times, that days blur into each other, as I fail to stop and smell the roses. Days when it feels like there are simply not enough hours to get it all done. And then, when I finally have the time, where did my energy and focus go?

4 signs you are overloaded:

Continue reading Overloaded, overwhelmed and not enough time

Posted on 5 Comments

Truly authentic- authenticity – what does it mean?

truly authentic, inner wisdom, great leadership, personal development, authentically you, coach speak, coaching jargon, examples of being authentic, authentic person, authentic people, demonstrate real authenticity, genuine authenticity, too authentic, just be yourself, true wisdom, effective leadership, inner happiness, contentment, finding joy, inner peace

The phrase of the decade “truly authentic”. So overused, it’s become cliché. And yet this phrase resonates, representing an innermost desire to “just be ourselves”. Because so many people, who appear to have it all, are miserable inside! Trapped by expectations that others “impose” upon them.

If you are one of the many, you may feel you are simply fulfilling roles and stereotypes that have left you frustrated and unfulfilled.  Or perhaps, you feel happiness is lightyears away.

Continue reading Truly authentic- authenticity – what does it mean?

Posted on Leave a comment

Another self-help book or is it time to hire a coach?

Self-help book or is it time to hire a coach? Personal development.

If you are anything like me, you’ve read dozens, possibly hundreds, of self-help books. Whether it’s older books like the 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and Think & Grow Rich, or newer books like You Are A Badass – there are plenty of books on personal development. Devouring them helps us make steady changes in life.

reading self-help books, choosing personal development, self development strategiesHowever, you may still find that you haven’t found what you are looking for. Perhaps you are wondering – “why is this not working?” I’m here to tell you – unless you make some fundamental changes, rather than simply surface changes – nothing will change.

If nothing changes, nothing will ever change.

Continue reading Another self-help book or is it time to hire a coach?