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Truly authentic- authenticity – what does it mean?

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The phrase of the decade “truly authentic”. So overused, it’s become cliché. And yet this phrase resonates, representing an innermost desire to “just be ourselves”. Because so many people, who appear to have it all, are miserable inside! Trapped by expectations that others “impose” upon them.

If you are one of the many, you may feel you are simply fulfilling roles and stereotypes that have left you frustrated and unfulfilled.  Or perhaps, you feel happiness is lightyears away.

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Another self-help book or is it time to hire a coach?

Self-help book or is it time to hire a coach? Personal development.

If you are anything like me, you’ve read dozens, possibly hundreds, of self-help books. Whether it’s older books like the 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and Think & Grow Rich, or newer books like You Are A Badass – there are plenty of books on personal development. Devouring them helps us make steady changes in life.

reading self-help books, choosing personal development, self development strategiesHowever, you may still find that you haven’t found what you are looking for. Perhaps you are wondering – “why is this not working?” I’m here to tell you – unless you make some fundamental changes, rather than simply surface changes – nothing will change.

If nothing changes, nothing will ever change.

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Take that picture perfect life from surviving to thriving

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Many of us have a life that others envy – picture-perfect to the outside eye. And yet, it may not be filled with joy, especially when we lose our way. We reach a place where we can no longer see the forest for the trees – caught up in the day-to-day, like a hamster on a wheel. People only see the parts of the “photos” that we crop and filter to them. We project an image of ourselves (even our families) that are far from reality.

We hide any signs of struggle – doing our very best to live up to everyone’s expectations! What does it take to get out from under – from surviving to thriving?

Is surviving really living?

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Burnout: discovering meaning, passion & purpose

I recently wrote a blog post on my personal blog about the road to burnout.  The signs, signals, and symptoms that burnout was around the corner were obvious:“When you’re burnt out, you often no longer see yourself as an agent of change in your own life. It feels like all your efforts and your choices no longer impact your outcomes.” Emilie Aries, surviving to thriving

  • exhausted
  • energy depletion
  • mentally distant
  • problems “getting the job done”
  • sense of failure & self-doubt
  • insomnia & chronic fatigue
  • constantly falling ill
  • emotional exhaustion
  • anger issues, cynicism
  • depression & anxiety
  • forgetfulness & inability to concentrate
  • withdrawal

But I had ignored them, blaming them on my auto-immune disease (Celiac). I continued pushing myself. I blamed the chronic low-grade stress in my life on my illness. And I mistakenly thought that my problem was my mindset, time management, and the need to establish clearer priorities. Continue reading Burnout: discovering meaning, passion & purpose

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Inner Conflict: resolving with mBraining

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Inner conflict shows up in so many ways, shapes and forms. Some say that the more mental beliefs, ideals, expectations, and desires we have, the more likely we are to suffer from internal conflict.

Sometimes, it is a mental conflict, such as a cognitive dissonance — inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes.

Other times, it feels worse: caught between a rock and a hard place. On the one hand, this is what I “should” do, but this is what I want to do.  Or perhaps, you even want both things, they just seem to be diametrically opposed to each other. Confused about the options and choices you are faced with, you wonder how to resolve the conundrum. Continue reading Inner Conflict: resolving with mBraining