Life coach: thriving is an inside job!

I come with a warning label: working with me as your life coach may feel like a healing journey!

It doesn’t matter where we start:

  • with the physical (Ditch the Diet & Face the Feelings),
  • the emotional (self-confidence & authenticity),
  • the mental (mindset, decision-making & perspectives), or
  • even the professional (goals, dreams and getting you unstuck).

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At the end of the day, we’ll end up addressing your life and the multiple inner layers that make it up: emotional, physical, spiritual, mental, professional and relationships.   Your inner self-awareness will open the possibility of changing your life and how you take action.

There is only LIFE! And how you do anything is how you do everything!

What’s out of balance in your diet is probably the same thing that’s out of balance in your relationships – because your relationship with food is merely a reflection of how you love and respect yourself.

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A picture-perfect life is overrated!

Let’s be honest: in order to have perfection, you have to remove and eliminate all imperfections. Who defines “perfection”? Whose expectations have to be met in order to be “picture-perfect”?

That sounds like a lot of people-pleasing and pressure! It also sounds so inauthentic!

Every one of us has strengths and weaknesses – light and shadow sides. A complex mix of emotions, beliefs, talents, abilities, wants, desires, experiences and dreams for the future.

When we strip away the imperfections, in the striving for perfection, part of us gets left to the side. We’re left feeling incomplete. But to be complete, you have to accept you are imperfect. Can you love and accept ALL of you?

There’s a wonderful term I like to describe the process: Satisfice.

Satisfy + Suffice = Satisfice.

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It’s more than “good enough”

We’re going to generate the wisdom of that beautiful place of being where your minimum standards in every part of your life are satisfied!

What is the absolute minimum you will accept as being a great life – in every aspect and area of your life?

  • How do you build professional success that you are satisfied with?
  • What would your relationships and support circle look and feel like?
  • How do you feel about yourself personally?
  • What time do you set aside for exercise and self-care?
  • Are you learning and growing continually, constantly curious about your future?
  • How does it all draw together to fulfil your goals and dreams?

Rather than battling to discover your work-life balance – what if you strive to have a life you love to work at building?

It’s so much more than a picture-perfect life from the outside looking in!

It’s perfect from the inside out!

Building a life in which you have a sense of inner peace, success and wellbeing that others already seem to think you possess!  You’re free from the gnawing feeling “am I living authentically?”.  And you’re no longer tired of a treadmill on which you run to keep up appearances.

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How would you rate your wellbeing?

Yes – Happiness is an inside job. But thriving and well-being are so much more than just momentary happiness. Are you content with the life you have built? Or are there moments when it feels empty and meaningless?

Does your inner critic tell you it’s selfish to want more?  Do you keep on “keeping on”?

It’s all fine while you keep up with your routine, career success,  diet, exercise and self-care plan. Then something comes up. And it all seems to fall apart.

But you struggle in silence, holding it in because you know how blessed you are. Who are you to want more?

And if you’re a helper, it’s ten times worse: life has taught you to be there for others, but never to ask for help! So far, you’ve always figured things out on your own.

You see other people with inner peace, living life according to their own values and defining what success means for them. But what about you?  Who is in control of your life? When you slip up: do you eat your feelings, stuff them down, and hide them away? Always the trooper that never misses a beat and keeps everyone else going, no matter how exhausted or depleted you are.

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Maybe it’s time to say “screw the rules and expectations” (ditch the diet) and start to face the feelings (live from the inside out!).

Allow your inner wisdom to surface from your self-awareness, as you find balance in your mental, emotional, professional, physical and spiritual life. What might satisficing feel like?

What will “Ditching the Diet” do for you?

Life is not a bunch of rules
Do you fear upsetting the apple cart?

What happens if you stop living by the rules that others set for you: expectations, limitations, diet, exercise regime, schedule and priorities?

Face the Feelings: all the feelings

Are you feeling empty, tired, exhausted or even burnt out?

One of the challenges of a picture-perfect life is acknowledging it lost its magic and now feels meaningless. What were you chasing that was so important? Who will you disappoint and let down if you stop?

Did you convince yourself someone else needs to make the rules because you aren’t good enough?

  • Can you be trusted to make the rules and create expectations for yourself? 
  • Maybe your inner critic reminds you of all mistakes you’ve made: “you’re doing it wrong.”
  • Are your decisions driven by fear, instead of self-confidence?
  • People-pleasing: influenced by “their” expectations. You promise yourself that later you will make time to pursue your dreams.
  • Life has just become a bunch of rules that others impose, just like your diet & exercise routine.
Spoiler alert:
Self awareness (know thyself) opens the possibility of making real changes.  If you knew how to make these changes and build a satisficing life, you would already have done it. Things will continue exactly as they are unless you ask for help.

I coach my clients on what life looks like when you live from the inside out: face the feelings, challenge your thinking and generate inner wisdom that transforms. Then, you can choose new actions.

Self-Awareness ➔ Clarity ➔ Action and Changes

Get clarity:
What do you want? Ask yourself: Are the steps I am taking, leading where I want to be?

If you feel frozen: have you confused problem-solving with decision-making? It’s easy to foresee, then overthink, the problems ahead. You fail to decide because you don’t know how you will overcome the obstacles. In the meantime, you keep on keeping on.

How many times will you try “a new diet” or a new schedule or a new set of rules made by others (externally), before you are ready to recognise that YOU are the person that is the only expert in your life?

Could you risk living from the inside out?

You could take their advice “under advisement”. Diet and health advice can become guidelines, rather than rules.

You choose. It’s your life and your responsibility.

I’m not the expert in your life, but I can ask the questions and guide you to finding your answers.

What will satisfice? 

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When you change, everything changes!

Are you ready to upset the apple cart? Will you outgrow people and relationships? Are you worried or scared about how others might respond?

Consider, for a moment, the simple change of taking up running. You join a running club, and perhaps you start to spend 3-4 hours a week with this new group. What did you start to say “no” to, in order to open up that time in your schedule?
Now, you make a small change in the evening to what you drink, so that you have a clear head for a fresh start on your early morning run. Who feels disappointed or deceived that you have changed your social life?

You move boundaries: and someone is bound to feel let down. Any change you make ripples and affects everyone around you. Most people are afraid of changes, even when change is constant and inevitable.

Are the people in your life holding onto certainty and asking you to hold back?

Step up into your challenge!

 Become the best version of yourself by living from the inside out. 

You need a life coach to Face the Feelings!

Self-awareness is the first step of change: it impacts how honour and respect yourself.

If you choose the Ditch the Diet & Face the Feelings program, your relationship with food will be the thermometer we use to measure the temperature of your self-respect and compassion. If you didn’t use food to supplant your emotions, what would you face and make decisions about? What are your priorities and reasons for wanting picture-perfect health?

My Inner Life Coaching program takes a larger look at life: professional, relationships, communication and personal development. We start with self-awareness and then move into state management (finding inner peace and balance). We reveal your priorities and what’s important to you! What do you truly value?

It’s about building a satisficing life!

From there, you have the clarity to refine your sense of purpose and meaning! Once you have that clarity, you create the plan, build goals, choosing the steps that will effectively move you forward.

On this journey, you choose where to focus your attention and energy. Where is it most needed in your life?

Most important of all: you regain a sense of inner control and being the master of your destiny.


I will ask what price you are prepared to pay, and I’m not talking about my fees here.

The life you want will cost you the life you have!

Self-awareness will make you uncomfortable – it might even piss you off!
(You know – the Truth hurts.)

Well-being and thriving are created when you live from the inside out!

That’s why you need a life coach!


If you are ready to move forward,
ask for a discovery call.

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A new level on the spiral of personal growth and change!

So far, you have survived 100% of whatever life has thrown at you. You’ve kept to diets in the past and reached your goals. You have not only survived – you have succeeded!

It’s not that you don’t know the sweet taste of success! In fact, your great sadness is probably that life at the moment doesn’t have that sweetness and richness you expected.

Perhaps your day-to-day life has gotten a little chaotic and overwhelming.  Maybe you got so busy living up to other people’s expectations that you lost yourself.  Without even noticing, you started following rules and schedules, lost to the meaning and purpose behind them.

Now is the time to draw out a blank sheet of paper and intentionally re-design your life.

Feeling stuck?

Live authentically and dare to want more alignment!

Dare to say: “Is this really all there is? I want more.” Notice what that feels like and where you feel it! Are you satisfied with your life and achievements?

It’s more than being strong, capable & creative. You have a proven track record, at least in one area of your life, where others look up to you. Don’t feel bad for saying “something is missing”.

It’s time to discover yourself, feel your emotions instead of numbing them, and live life to the fullest.  A life that allows your empathy and spirituality to play principal roles, connecting with heart, body & soul.

I invite you to dare to have it all:
Foster your health and well-being, while at the same time pursuing your dreams of abundance and prosperity in every sense of the word: wealth, health, happiness, peace, harmony, joy, and love.

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Are you ready to restart, reset and build the habits that will keep you going?

Together, we can make space and set aside time to look at the different areas of your life, understanding that there will always be competing priorities and passions.

These can be weaved together in balance and harmony to build a life that you love.  To build a new life, where you grow, where you are strong, and where you feel peace because your heart is balanced.
You no longer feel torn and overwhelmed.

Instead, you advance with a clear vision of the life that you want. You build a plan that will get you there.  Finally, we build accountability to make it happen. Know that you have guidance and empowerment to complete it.

If you are ready to move forward,
ask for an introductory call with Beth as your life coach!

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Complete the Questionnaire “Taking Stock of your Life”, which you can download as a PDF onto your computer. There is also an online version of the Questionnaire if you want, although I have discovered most clients prefer the PDF version.

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Once you have completed the Life Balance Quiz, if you haven’t already, then ask for your discovery call:

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